Thursday, June 30, 2011

A new post on my thoughts

I started this blog about 3 months ago, but have failed to keep it active.  I’ve been trying to find someone who is a true HOH/DD.  I have to thank the person who’s comment posting on my ST page for suggesting SpankFinder.  I’ve had the opportunity to talk to someone who peaks my interest and seems to be very sincere in the lifestyle.  My goal is to eventually find that rare combination of a man who is both a strong disciplinarian but one that is fair, not someone who punishes for unjust reasons. He must be confident with himself and provide a structure that is beneficial to both parties.  Expectations should be realistic and discussed before moving to the next level.  I believe this person should be calm and in control during punishments and not loose their temper or show anger.  Doing so breaks the trust of the relationship which then allows the fear set in.  This definitely would kill the relationship.  I believe this sort of relationship is extremely intense both emotionally and physically.  The bond that is created is so strong and I truly believe this sort of relationship is so much more powerful than any vanilla relationship.  Issues are always dealt with which makes communication between a couple strong and builds the strength of the relationship...
More thoughts to come..